"The greatest general misconception regarding how to improve our habits or destroy our vices is that one must approach such tasks by use of small, gradual steps. This is invariably ineffective, despite our shared lifetimes of failure using such means. To effect lasting change for an individual soul requires dramatic, large, and even drastic alterations to our actual behavior. Not one of the famous Twelve Steps for alcoholics is minor in scope. Spirituality is no different. Decide to go to Mass every single day for the rest of your life, and now you are on to something. Consider fasting, which is ridiculously difficult, especially for the novice, yet our sinless, perfect Lord fasted often and assiduously. So if you want to change, change BIG. God will help. Big changes to us are small matters for Him to support."